It’s been far too long since my last post in The College Series, so I wanted to pick it back up this week since all my college friends are heading back to school this week ( or soon ). Last time I talked about what I wish I knew before starting college, and now today I want to talk about what I wish I knew before graduating. So! This one is for all my lady friends around the web in their last semester or year:
Friendships fade without the proper stoking, just like a fire I think one of the main things I looked forward to with college was creating those lifelong friendships they talk about in the movies, and well, real life. Don’t get me wrong, I had a good group of friends prior to moving away, but I wanted people who I ( to put it bluntly ) absolutely knew I could depend on and would be there with me for a while. While I did make one or two of those, it’s shocked me that in the three months that we’ve been away that we’ve all sort of just gone our separate ways, and things have faded. Friendships before, during, and after college take time and commitment, and if you want the friendship to withstand the distance and time, you have to keep at it.
“Growing up” is as easy or hard as you make it I remember so many people talking before we graduated about the fact that they didn’t want to “grow up” and get a real job. Some of them continued into graduate school for that reason. However, honestly: “growing up” is as easy or as hard as you make it for yourself. My second semester junior year I felt ready to go and grow up; my senior year, I felt beyond ready and confident in my next steps. Make it easier on yourself by having steps to take after you graduate ( instead of, you know, waiting for them to fall in your lap ), and growing up will be much easier than you may think. Having set steps that I knew I was going to follow after graduation has made these last three months of “growing up” not as hard as people may make it seem.
Moving home isn’t as bad as it may seem Y’all – I love my parents, but I dreaded the idea of moving home. I would absolutely have stayed where I was had D not been leaving. Unfortunately though, I knew that it was best for many reasons that I move home. Although it has been a bit of an adjustment, it isn’t as bad as it may seem. Consider this: no rent, home cooked meals ( almost ) every night, and if you’re lucky enough to freelance: you’re parents won’t care if you skip a shower day every now and then.
Wowzers, those things may seem sort of negative, but honestly, I’ve had the best three months ( minus the part of D being away ), and I can happily say I’m very much enjoying the graduate life! Life is always about how you make it for yourself, so if you’re getting ready to graduate, enjoy your last days, but don’t worry about what’s ahead!